Online Dating

Over the years there has been a tremendous growth in online dating websites. Since we are living in a technological age creators of these sites know that providing this type of service is a necessity. With work, school and busy lifestyle overall, many don’t have time to actually go out and meet people they could potentially date. These sights make it easier for most to meet other singles that fit the certain criteria they are seeking. Forty million people in the United States alone have tried online dating. Before deciding which dating site you want to sign up for you should first ask yourself what it is you're looking for. Some sites have an emphasis on serious relationships and some are for people looking to date causally. Once you’ve decided what kind of dating you want to do, that’s when you start researching the perfect site for you. Typically, you'll become a member and create a profile. Being 100 percent truthful on your profile is important. This way you can get matched with someone more accurately. Some sites match you with someone by using your age, location, what your personal preferences are or by using a personality test. Some sites will also use their representatives to actually match you. Most dating sites offer a free trial and after the free trail there will be monthly payments. Some charge anywhere from 16 to 60 dollars. Free access to select services is also provided on some of these dating sites. Sites that are less popular are usually free. If you do your research online you can even find coupons for discounts. 

Recently there has been an up rise to online dating sites geared towards people with sexually transmitted infections. These sites are for people with incurable STI’s who can meet others with the same infections they have. There are 20 million new cases of people with STI’s each year in the United States. Using these specific online dating sites has provided a safe, responsible and comfortable window in to dating. Here are two lists of some popular online dating websites. These are only a few of the countless sites available.

1. Match
2. Eharmony
3. Chemistry
4. OK Cupid
5. Our Time
6. Christians Mingle
7. True

Some dating Sites for People with STI's:

1. Responsible Dating
2. Positive Singles
3. STD Friends
4. Date Positive
5. HMates

 
Dating online is an easy way of eliminating people you know you might not be interested in. This ability of pin pointing potential matches is what really lures people to online dating. Although online dating is easy, convenient, fun and in many times effective in landing great dates or even marriage there are dangerous aspects of it as well. Only a few online dating sites provide background checking for members who sign up. So really knowing who's behind that computer screen or who's going to show up when you two first meet can really be a gamble. There have been countless cases of married men & women, stalkers, con artist and criminals who join these dating websites. Many don't always have pure and good intentions and frankly lying about whom you are and what kind of person you are is fairly easy. Many members on these dating sites use old pictures or lie about their weight but that's the least of your worries. Con artist both men and women lurk on these sites looking to scam lonely singles out of thousands of dollars. 

Bill Warner, a Florida private investigator who offers on his website to "sort out the winners from the losers" for a flat fee of US$169,says running background checks on potential Internet dates now constitutes more than 50 per cent of his business.

If you're using an online dating site and have met someone you might be interested in your best bet is to shed out a little extra cash to perform a background check on. You could even do a background check yourself online for around 20 bucks. It sounds extensive but there are too many horror stories out there and I'm sure you don't want to be one of them.

In recent news we've been hearing a lot about people being Cat Fished. What is being Cat Fished? Well I'll enlighten you if you don't already know. When you develop a relationship with a person online and they turn out not to be who they say they are, that's being catfished. These people pretend to be someone they're not and live a live on the Internet fooling multiple people. Going behind a computer screen making up a factitious person is wrong but so many are doing it. Men pretend to be women and vice versa. They use fake pictures they find online and pretend that it's them. They go on dating websites, facebook and twitter and begin romantic relationships with people based on lies and deception. There's even a new reality TV show on MTV about people going through this experience called Catfish.  I can only hope that this in your face reality TV series is going to prompt online daters to be careful when development relationships with online strangers. There are tons of tips and trick to online dating the right way you just have to seek them out diligently! Don't ever believe what anyone says to you online always do your homework!

In this video you can get a first hand look at what being catfished is all about. It may seem shocking but this happens to people everyday. Online dating is a great tool to use for meeting people but you must be wise about it! Good luck! 

Happy Online dating.

xoxo Rockie

Good Guys Finish First!

There's a popular saying that goes like this, good guys finish last. I don't agree with this statement at all! Yes, some women go for the bad boy, mysterious type but at the end of the day they usually marry the good guy! I asked some of my close female friends what they thought were important qualities when seeking a man and came up with a list. 

1. Loving
2. Honest
3. Single
4. Hard working
5. Employed
6. Dedicated
7. Understanding
8. Affectionate
9. Kind
10. Open Minded
11. Funny
12. Out going
13. Cares about his family

Now, if you asked me I'd say that these are all qualities a good guy possesses. Right? So what's happening? I think all of these good guys that are out here might not have enough courage to bump the bad boys out of the way and swoop their lady off of her feet. From my understanding and experience those bad boy types are aggressive and persistent with their approach. Ladies don't walk pass the nice guy and right into the arms of the jerk. Dear, good guys Don't fret patience, persistence will get you the girl in the end.

I Love the good guys

xoxo Rockie

This Single Girls Life.

After being in a few long term relationships, I'm single for the first time in about ten years! Tired of always being someones girlfriend I decided I wanted to be a lone ranger. Unbelievable right? NO! Many find it hard to believe that I actually want to be single and in no rush to meet prince charming. I'm not opposed to it, just not actively looking. I'm only sharing this story because I want people to know that being single is OK and you shouldn't feel lonely or merisble because you don't have a significant other. If I had a penny for every time someone said I should be married or asked why am I single I'd be rich by now. I'm 25, which is typically in this day and age the time people start getting married, having children or in a committed relationship. (usually) One line I hear all the time is, you're too pretty, how are you single? Well, I didn't know that "pretty" people weren't allowed to be single? Is there something I'm missing? I've noticed that men who are single are rarely or never asked why? I'm assuming that it's illegal to be single when you're a young attractive woman. This is how society makes it out to be. But, I've never been the type to conform to society's expectations of how people should be. I go to the movies alone, I eat dinner alone and if I get an urge to cuddle, well that's what my body pillow is for. I surround myself with tons of wonderful friends and family members so I've yet to feel even an ounce of loneliness. My close friends tease me because when I get asked out I always tell the guy (if I agree to go) that this is not a date, it's a friend outing. Everyone always thinks this is hilarious but really, I say this because I don't want to lead anyone on. So I go on these friends outings under certain conditions.

Here are my friend outing conditions:

1.) There will be no kissing

2.) We are just friends

3.) We will remain Platonic

Now, I'm not trying to start some kind of singles revolution just saying I see so many women and men looking for love in all the wrong places. Sometimes it's OK to have time for yourself, learn to love yourself because at the end of the day if you don't love you then who else will? We have to learn to be one with our selves know our likes and dislikes and then the perfect person will be just around the corner. Please don't rush into a relationship for the fear of people alone. This is the time in my life where I'm doing everything I want to do and it's amazing. This is probably the only time in my young life that I will be able to do this. In a couple years I might be married with children but for now its just single me. For all my single folks out there, there are tons of fun things you can do with friends or even by yourself. Being single doesn't mean staying home alone and lonely. This is a time where you should be out and about meeting new people doing new things and stepping out of the box. Try not to stick to things you usually do and look for new and exciting adventures. Do things you can look back too and smile about. They don't shoot single people (well at least I don't think so). Wear your single cape proudly and when you're ready, really ready then put your self back on the market. I strongly feel that having me time is important, so have it!

I just wanna read books about juicing, watch movies and have drinks in the city with friends!

Your favorite single blogger,

xoxo Rockie

Scandal!

ABC's new hit series Scandal, is a show jam packed with enough juice to quench even the thirstiest of thirsts! Olivia Pope, one of the main characters in the show seems to be America's favorite mistress. Miss Pope's on going affair with the married president of the United States will keep your eyes glued to the screen!

 Olivia Pope has dedicated her life to protecting and defending the public images of the nation's elite and keeping those secrets under wraps. Revered and feared at the same time, Olivia, a former communications director to the President of the United States, left the White House to open her own prominent crisis management firm. She is hoping to start a new chapter in her life—both professionally and personally—but she can't seem to completely cut ties with her past. Slowly it becomes apparent that her dysfunctional staff, who specialize in fixing other people's lives, can't quite fix the ones closest at hand-their own

This show will keep you ooohing and ahhhing for an entire hour plus longing for more once the episode you're watching is over. Full of drama and thrills scandal is a MUST WATCH! Murder plots, white house secrets, lies, sex, right wing, left wing, its all sooooooo Scandalous!

xoxo Rockie

Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go.

Sometimes In life and in love we face many difficult decisions. One being letting go... But why let someone you care about go? Well there are many reasons. As difficult as it may be to say good bye sometimes it must be done. Here are a few reasons for letting someone go...

1) Found better and want better for yourself. 

3) You want to experiment and you want to see what life has to offer (that person could have been an  hindrance on your  personal growth). 

4.) Ultimately Serves a greater purpose.

5.) The relationship seems to have no future.

6.) There is no trust in the relationship.

Sometimes we confuse being in love with being comfortable. If a person makes you feel the need to question why you are still with them, then it's time to let go. Or sometimes certain circumstances such as different religious beliefs, distance etc can be a reason as well. It also could be that the person you're with just isn't the right fit. Or maybe you've been with them for so long they're the only thing you know when it comes to love and your just using them as a crutch. Get rid of this safety net! If you have any recurring doubt about the person you're with then those are signs that maybe you should let go. Sometimes we need space to figure out what we want out of love. Should you let go and realize that he/she really is the one then there shouldn't be any issues going back to them.

Goodbyes are never easy.

xoxo Rockie

How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Does abcense make the heart grow founder? Or is it out of sight out of mind?
Long distance relationships are one of the most difficult relationships a person can be in, but they are not impossible. It takes a lot of work and effort to keep a long distance relationship alive and well! Here are some steps you can take to survive a long distance relationship.

1. Make sure this is a relationship worth the effort it takes to be in a long distance relationship.          if you don't see a future with this person then why go through the troubles of being in a long distance relationship? Lets no try to make a boat with no fuel float for as long as it can, that's just  pointless. If it's a strong and stable relationship then put 100 percent into it!
2. Come up with a time frame, long distance relationships can't last forever. You both must come up with a game plan. Often relationships become long distance because of school, work etc. What ever the reason is, it's always easier to know OK in X amount of time we will be together again.
3. communication, this is VITAL in a long distance relationship; the vein pumping the blood to your heart. Phone calls, texting, emails and reaching out via social media is extremely important. 
4. visual communication, video chatting via skype, tango or facetime has to be a must in a long distance relationship. Humans are very visual creatures and seeing your loved ones face will help during this period of long distance. Set up video dates that you both can't break, before bed or while eating dinner, or even both. In additional the exchange of racy pictures can be fun and exciting. Since you can't physically be there with your guy/gal keeping things fun, exciting and light is important.
5. Just because gifts, thoughtfulness is always appreciated long distance or not. Sending flowers to her OR him is a great way to make someones day. Writing letters and sending unexpected packages is a great way to let your significant other know your on my mind!
6. Frequent visits, being with your significant other in physical form is more then just important its the only way to really keep the relationship alive. Yes you want to see the one you love every day or every weekend but in some cases that's highly unlikely. Once or twice a month is ideal, and every other month is manageable as well. 
7. Be supportive, There will be times when your significant other will go through times of stress either at school, work or just in their daily life. This is a time when there shouldn't be any arguing, and you should be very understanding. Loneliness is a frequent emotion during this time and trying your best to give support and attention to your significant other should be top on your list of daily things to do.
8. Honesty, This is a time in the relationship when lies will have you buried 6 feet under. In this time of separation people can become extremely paranoid and often times insecure in their boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband position. If you're going to go out with friends you should say so. It's easy to omit information about what your doing and who your doing it with.

Long distance relationships can be tough but in the end it will make your bond that much stronger. Remember to be strong have faith and most importantly have love and respect for each other!

Good Luck!

xoxo Rockie

I Think I'm In Love With My Best Friend!

 A best friend is a person you share everything with and in most cases spend a lot of time with. Some find it difficult to have a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex but It's 100 percent possible! But what do you do when you think you're falling in love with your best friend? Do you ignore your feelings? Should you be open and honest with them and share how you feel? Are you sure it's really love that you're feeling? I know, I know what do you do ? that awkward moment when you've fallen in love with your best friend!

Are you sure you're in love? Often when we are going through some kind of emotional or physical hardship our friends are the ones right there holding our hands through difficult times. If you're going through a trying time in your life and your friend is really helping you through, it could make you feel like you might have romantic feelings towards them. In times of need people tend to get very attached to the people closest to them (a best friend). These feelings that you might be experiencing towards your best friends might not be love. You can have love for them but probably aren't in love.

Recent break ups, being on the rebound, death in the family, depression,  and stress are some examples of vulnerable times where your emotions can get all mixed up.

It's Real! You know in your heart that you're truly in love with your best friend! Can't eat, can't sleep, you're head over heels! You've made a sane mind body and spirit decision that yes, These are my emotions and no, I'm not confused sigh. Now that you've come to terms it's time to decide what to do next.

Do You Tell them? You must understand that once you tell your best friend you have strong romantic feelings for them the entire dynamic of the relationship will change. Is sharing this news worth your current friendship as it is now? Are you OK with the possible rejection? Can you continue being this persons friend with out telling them how you really feel? If you can't go another day without admitting you're feelings for your friend then you should get it off your chest. If you've decided to take the plunge and be honest then you must do it the right way. If they are in a relationship you must think twice about sharing such news. Your approach has to be strategic as well. Don't give them the "we have to talk speech" and certainly don't use the love word.While you guys are hanging out, as you usually do sit them down and tell them you have feelings for them. 

What Next? Now your best friend knows that you have romantic feelings towards them. Ideally falling in love with your best friends is the most amazing thing ever right? It could be. If they feel the same way about you then the both of you can work on being a couple. If they don't share your feelings then two things will have to happen. 

1. It never happened! You both can try to pretend the conversation never happened and go on like every things normal and you can try to forget or avoid your feelings. This solution is very unlikely so lets go to number two.
2.  Space, You'll need some space. Seeing your best friend or listening to their guy/girl drama will be horrible for you and the friendship might feel weird for them as well. You two need to try to give each other tons of space until the air clears. You need time to try to get over your feelings and seeing them all the time won't help in the least bit.
3. Possible Solutions,  Go on a few dates and meet some new friends. It's a sad reality but things might not ever be the same between the two of you.

In conclusion, professing your love to your best friend can either go amazingly right or terribly wrong. It's up to you if you're willing to take that risk. Just remember going through life with what ifs isn't quite living. So hold your nose and take a dive! GOOD LUCK!

xoxo Rockie