Como Que? Casual Dating!

Monogamy, monogamy wherefore art thou? Remember when you were a kid and you liked a girl/boy in school? You'd send them a note that said: Be mine? Yes, no, maybe, circle one. A relationship is the YES and casual dating is the Maybe. Today, there are countless forms of relationships. Casual dating has become the norm in today’s society simply because we all think we have too many options to just go for one. Or maybe our lives are to demanding to devote time to a committed relationship. 

A casual sexual relationship, or casual dating, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship.

A casual relationship may be part-time, or for a limited time. It may or may not entail partner-exclusivity. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties wish it to.

I’m to busy: The busy card, which is school, work, and life! Some have children, multiple jobs and or are fulltime students and have little time to devote to a committed relationship, which is a job all in its own. A relationship is like a plant it needs watering in order to grow, neglect will cause that plant to die. This is why many choose to take the easy route and decide to casually date. 

A sticky situation: And I don’t mean the good kind! AaaahhhRight. The nice part of a casual a relationship is that in most cases its 20 steps up form a booty call. Nice dates can be involved, gifts, good morning text etc. You know, that whole shabang! Buuut (there’s always a but) please don’t be confused. Your cuddle buddy might have another cuddle buddy or several. Some get in too deep into this casual thing. If exclusivity was never discussed or even brought up then 8 times out of 10 you’re not the only one bedding your guy/gal. If you decided not to date anyone else that’s your personal decision and don’t expect the other party involved to return the favor. Unless you’re a robot you may develop some genuine feelings while in this type of relationship. Should this happen you can do two things. A.) Express your feelings or B.) Run for the hills for fear of rejection. Running for the hills sounds about right! No, seriously if you feel comfortable enough to discuss your feelings with that person then I’d say do just that. If you don’t, then there’s your answer right there!

Casual relationships only work if both parties are on the same page.

You have to have the same needs and wants and have similar life’s styles.

A casual relationship can stay that way or in some cases turn serious and eventually lead to a real commitment, yay. Just don't bank on that. If you find your self questioning your feelings or their feelings and feel as though you need clarity and certainty and the other party doesn’t wish to provide this then a casual relationship is not for you. Get out before your feelings get hurt.   

Happy dating!

xoxo Rockie

One Date, Two Date, Three Date, Four

Are there any rules for dating that are set in stone? Usually when we're on the hunt for that next "big catch" we go on multiple dates with multiple people. But when we find someone we feel we want to stand still with for a few minutes do we stop dating other people?

Is everyone else cut off?

1.) The unwritten rule: 

When you become close and intimate with someone you expect to be the only person they're being intimate with. That's ideal but not always the case.

2.) No exclusivity:

If He/She doesn't discuss being exclusive then you are not. You are free to do what ever you want technically and with out question.

To be continued... 

Broken Heart Syndrome

Love is a phenomenon sometimes difficult to explain in words. Broken hearts, a phenomenon difficult to live with. What does it mean to be broken hearted? Is our heart actually broken? If it is can it get fixed? What causes ones heart to break? When you're so in love with someone and you've given them all of you and suddenly with out any real reason they're gone! Or in some instances certain circumstances don't permitt the two of you to be together. Some go through this stage of heartbreak/ heartache. This feeling is so strong that it can even cause a physical reaction to your body. Loss of sleep, loss of appetite, to big of an appetite, body pains, no will power to go on and the list can go on and on. When this person who you thought was your other half is gone for what ever reason some say you may feel  zombie-like, empty. You'll question everything.

Broken heart syndrome:

 Is a temporary heart condition brought on by stressful situations, such as the death of a loved one. People with broken heart syndrome may have sudden chest pain or think they're having a heart attack. These broken heart syndrome symptoms may be brought on by the heart's reaction to a surge of stress hormones. In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn't pump well, while the remainder of the heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions.

If you are suffering from this condition I have some good news for you! When you enter a dark tunnel guess what? There is always a way OUT. You may walk alone in the dark for some time but its not forever. Some who  go through a traumatic experience in a relationship build walls to keep love out. Building a wall is the easiest thing you could do. You just lay down cement and stack up the blocks. The hard part is breaking it down. Its 100 percent doable! But when the RIGHT person comes along he/she will take the hammer and tear it down and you'll let them. 

I once heard that, "relationships are like thunderstorms, as easy as them come they go". I disagree! In the right relationship you’re in the thunderstorm together holding one umbrella until it’s over and the sun is shining. If your significant other left you or treated you terribly when the storm was over then they didn't deserve to have you in the 1st place.

Healing:

Healing takes time, it involves probably a lot of crying and surrounding yourself with people who love and care for you. Go on vacation if possible and do all of the things you love doing. You have the ability to create your own happiness. Wake up in the morning and say today I'm going to be happy and you will be. The mind is one of the most powerful organs we poses, feed it positivity and poof your life will change for the better!

Living with a broken heart is impossible so be willing to let someone come in and help you patch it back up. No, your heart might not look exactly the same with all those stitches but our scars make us who we are, beautiful.

Online Dating

Over the years there has been a tremendous growth in online dating websites. Since we are living in a technological age creators of these sites know that providing this type of service is a necessity. With work, school and busy lifestyle overall, many don’t have time to actually go out and meet people they could potentially date. These sights make it easier for most to meet other singles that fit the certain criteria they are seeking. Forty million people in the United States alone have tried online dating. Before deciding which dating site you want to sign up for you should first ask yourself what it is you're looking for. Some sites have an emphasis on serious relationships and some are for people looking to date causally. Once you’ve decided what kind of dating you want to do, that’s when you start researching the perfect site for you. Typically, you'll become a member and create a profile. Being 100 percent truthful on your profile is important. This way you can get matched with someone more accurately. Some sites match you with someone by using your age, location, what your personal preferences are or by using a personality test. Some sites will also use their representatives to actually match you. Most dating sites offer a free trial and after the free trail there will be monthly payments. Some charge anywhere from 16 to 60 dollars. Free access to select services is also provided on some of these dating sites. Sites that are less popular are usually free. If you do your research online you can even find coupons for discounts. 

Recently there has been an up rise to online dating sites geared towards people with sexually transmitted infections. These sites are for people with incurable STI’s who can meet others with the same infections they have. There are 20 million new cases of people with STI’s each year in the United States. Using these specific online dating sites has provided a safe, responsible and comfortable window in to dating. Here are two lists of some popular online dating websites. These are only a few of the countless sites available.

1. Match
2. Eharmony
3. Chemistry
4. OK Cupid
5. Our Time
6. Christians Mingle
7. True

Some dating Sites for People with STI's:

1. Responsible Dating
2. Positive Singles
3. STD Friends
4. Date Positive
5. HMates

 
Dating online is an easy way of eliminating people you know you might not be interested in. This ability of pin pointing potential matches is what really lures people to online dating. Although online dating is easy, convenient, fun and in many times effective in landing great dates or even marriage there are dangerous aspects of it as well. Only a few online dating sites provide background checking for members who sign up. So really knowing who's behind that computer screen or who's going to show up when you two first meet can really be a gamble. There have been countless cases of married men & women, stalkers, con artist and criminals who join these dating websites. Many don't always have pure and good intentions and frankly lying about whom you are and what kind of person you are is fairly easy. Many members on these dating sites use old pictures or lie about their weight but that's the least of your worries. Con artist both men and women lurk on these sites looking to scam lonely singles out of thousands of dollars. 

Bill Warner, a Florida private investigator who offers on his website to "sort out the winners from the losers" for a flat fee of US$169,says running background checks on potential Internet dates now constitutes more than 50 per cent of his business.

If you're using an online dating site and have met someone you might be interested in your best bet is to shed out a little extra cash to perform a background check on. You could even do a background check yourself online for around 20 bucks. It sounds extensive but there are too many horror stories out there and I'm sure you don't want to be one of them.

In recent news we've been hearing a lot about people being Cat Fished. What is being Cat Fished? Well I'll enlighten you if you don't already know. When you develop a relationship with a person online and they turn out not to be who they say they are, that's being catfished. These people pretend to be someone they're not and live a live on the Internet fooling multiple people. Going behind a computer screen making up a factitious person is wrong but so many are doing it. Men pretend to be women and vice versa. They use fake pictures they find online and pretend that it's them. They go on dating websites, facebook and twitter and begin romantic relationships with people based on lies and deception. There's even a new reality TV show on MTV about people going through this experience called Catfish.  I can only hope that this in your face reality TV series is going to prompt online daters to be careful when development relationships with online strangers. There are tons of tips and trick to online dating the right way you just have to seek them out diligently! Don't ever believe what anyone says to you online always do your homework!

In this video you can get a first hand look at what being catfished is all about. It may seem shocking but this happens to people everyday. Online dating is a great tool to use for meeting people but you must be wise about it! Good luck! 

Happy Online dating.

xoxo Rockie

Good Guys Finish First!

There's a popular saying that goes like this, good guys finish last. I don't agree with this statement at all! Yes, some women go for the bad boy, mysterious type but at the end of the day they usually marry the good guy! I asked some of my close female friends what they thought were important qualities when seeking a man and came up with a list. 

1. Loving
2. Honest
3. Single
4. Hard working
5. Employed
6. Dedicated
7. Understanding
8. Affectionate
9. Kind
10. Open Minded
11. Funny
12. Out going
13. Cares about his family

Now, if you asked me I'd say that these are all qualities a good guy possesses. Right? So what's happening? I think all of these good guys that are out here might not have enough courage to bump the bad boys out of the way and swoop their lady off of her feet. From my understanding and experience those bad boy types are aggressive and persistent with their approach. Ladies don't walk pass the nice guy and right into the arms of the jerk. Dear, good guys Don't fret patience, persistence will get you the girl in the end.

I Love the good guys

xoxo Rockie

This Single Girls Life.

After being in a few long term relationships, I'm single for the first time in about ten years! Tired of always being someones girlfriend I decided I wanted to be a lone ranger. Unbelievable right? NO! Many find it hard to believe that I actually want to be single and in no rush to meet prince charming. I'm not opposed to it, just not actively looking. I'm only sharing this story because I want people to know that being single is OK and you shouldn't feel lonely or merisble because you don't have a significant other. If I had a penny for every time someone said I should be married or asked why am I single I'd be rich by now. I'm 25, which is typically in this day and age the time people start getting married, having children or in a committed relationship. (usually) One line I hear all the time is, you're too pretty, how are you single? Well, I didn't know that "pretty" people weren't allowed to be single? Is there something I'm missing? I've noticed that men who are single are rarely or never asked why? I'm assuming that it's illegal to be single when you're a young attractive woman. This is how society makes it out to be. But, I've never been the type to conform to society's expectations of how people should be. I go to the movies alone, I eat dinner alone and if I get an urge to cuddle, well that's what my body pillow is for. I surround myself with tons of wonderful friends and family members so I've yet to feel even an ounce of loneliness. My close friends tease me because when I get asked out I always tell the guy (if I agree to go) that this is not a date, it's a friend outing. Everyone always thinks this is hilarious but really, I say this because I don't want to lead anyone on. So I go on these friends outings under certain conditions.

Here are my friend outing conditions:

1.) There will be no kissing

2.) We are just friends

3.) We will remain Platonic

Now, I'm not trying to start some kind of singles revolution just saying I see so many women and men looking for love in all the wrong places. Sometimes it's OK to have time for yourself, learn to love yourself because at the end of the day if you don't love you then who else will? We have to learn to be one with our selves know our likes and dislikes and then the perfect person will be just around the corner. Please don't rush into a relationship for the fear of people alone. This is the time in my life where I'm doing everything I want to do and it's amazing. This is probably the only time in my young life that I will be able to do this. In a couple years I might be married with children but for now its just single me. For all my single folks out there, there are tons of fun things you can do with friends or even by yourself. Being single doesn't mean staying home alone and lonely. This is a time where you should be out and about meeting new people doing new things and stepping out of the box. Try not to stick to things you usually do and look for new and exciting adventures. Do things you can look back too and smile about. They don't shoot single people (well at least I don't think so). Wear your single cape proudly and when you're ready, really ready then put your self back on the market. I strongly feel that having me time is important, so have it!

I just wanna read books about juicing, watch movies and have drinks in the city with friends!

Your favorite single blogger,

xoxo Rockie

Scandal!

ABC's new hit series Scandal, is a show jam packed with enough juice to quench even the thirstiest of thirsts! Olivia Pope, one of the main characters in the show seems to be America's favorite mistress. Miss Pope's on going affair with the married president of the United States will keep your eyes glued to the screen!

 Olivia Pope has dedicated her life to protecting and defending the public images of the nation's elite and keeping those secrets under wraps. Revered and feared at the same time, Olivia, a former communications director to the President of the United States, left the White House to open her own prominent crisis management firm. She is hoping to start a new chapter in her life—both professionally and personally—but she can't seem to completely cut ties with her past. Slowly it becomes apparent that her dysfunctional staff, who specialize in fixing other people's lives, can't quite fix the ones closest at hand-their own

This show will keep you ooohing and ahhhing for an entire hour plus longing for more once the episode you're watching is over. Full of drama and thrills scandal is a MUST WATCH! Murder plots, white house secrets, lies, sex, right wing, left wing, its all sooooooo Scandalous!

xoxo Rockie

Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go.

Sometimes In life and in love we face many difficult decisions. One being letting go... But why let someone you care about go? Well there are many reasons. As difficult as it may be to say good bye sometimes it must be done. Here are a few reasons for letting someone go...

1) Found better and want better for yourself. 

3) You want to experiment and you want to see what life has to offer (that person could have been an  hindrance on your  personal growth). 

4.) Ultimately Serves a greater purpose.

5.) The relationship seems to have no future.

6.) There is no trust in the relationship.

Sometimes we confuse being in love with being comfortable. If a person makes you feel the need to question why you are still with them, then it's time to let go. Or sometimes certain circumstances such as different religious beliefs, distance etc can be a reason as well. It also could be that the person you're with just isn't the right fit. Or maybe you've been with them for so long they're the only thing you know when it comes to love and your just using them as a crutch. Get rid of this safety net! If you have any recurring doubt about the person you're with then those are signs that maybe you should let go. Sometimes we need space to figure out what we want out of love. Should you let go and realize that he/she really is the one then there shouldn't be any issues going back to them.

Goodbyes are never easy.

xoxo Rockie

How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Does abcense make the heart grow founder? Or is it out of sight out of mind?
Long distance relationships are one of the most difficult relationships a person can be in, but they are not impossible. It takes a lot of work and effort to keep a long distance relationship alive and well! Here are some steps you can take to survive a long distance relationship.

1. Make sure this is a relationship worth the effort it takes to be in a long distance relationship.          if you don't see a future with this person then why go through the troubles of being in a long distance relationship? Lets no try to make a boat with no fuel float for as long as it can, that's just  pointless. If it's a strong and stable relationship then put 100 percent into it!
2. Come up with a time frame, long distance relationships can't last forever. You both must come up with a game plan. Often relationships become long distance because of school, work etc. What ever the reason is, it's always easier to know OK in X amount of time we will be together again.
3. communication, this is VITAL in a long distance relationship; the vein pumping the blood to your heart. Phone calls, texting, emails and reaching out via social media is extremely important. 
4. visual communication, video chatting via skype, tango or facetime has to be a must in a long distance relationship. Humans are very visual creatures and seeing your loved ones face will help during this period of long distance. Set up video dates that you both can't break, before bed or while eating dinner, or even both. In additional the exchange of racy pictures can be fun and exciting. Since you can't physically be there with your guy/gal keeping things fun, exciting and light is important.
5. Just because gifts, thoughtfulness is always appreciated long distance or not. Sending flowers to her OR him is a great way to make someones day. Writing letters and sending unexpected packages is a great way to let your significant other know your on my mind!
6. Frequent visits, being with your significant other in physical form is more then just important its the only way to really keep the relationship alive. Yes you want to see the one you love every day or every weekend but in some cases that's highly unlikely. Once or twice a month is ideal, and every other month is manageable as well. 
7. Be supportive, There will be times when your significant other will go through times of stress either at school, work or just in their daily life. This is a time when there shouldn't be any arguing, and you should be very understanding. Loneliness is a frequent emotion during this time and trying your best to give support and attention to your significant other should be top on your list of daily things to do.
8. Honesty, This is a time in the relationship when lies will have you buried 6 feet under. In this time of separation people can become extremely paranoid and often times insecure in their boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband position. If you're going to go out with friends you should say so. It's easy to omit information about what your doing and who your doing it with.

Long distance relationships can be tough but in the end it will make your bond that much stronger. Remember to be strong have faith and most importantly have love and respect for each other!

Good Luck!

xoxo Rockie

I Think I'm In Love With My Best Friend!

 A best friend is a person you share everything with and in most cases spend a lot of time with. Some find it difficult to have a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex but It's 100 percent possible! But what do you do when you think you're falling in love with your best friend? Do you ignore your feelings? Should you be open and honest with them and share how you feel? Are you sure it's really love that you're feeling? I know, I know what do you do ? that awkward moment when you've fallen in love with your best friend!

Are you sure you're in love? Often when we are going through some kind of emotional or physical hardship our friends are the ones right there holding our hands through difficult times. If you're going through a trying time in your life and your friend is really helping you through, it could make you feel like you might have romantic feelings towards them. In times of need people tend to get very attached to the people closest to them (a best friend). These feelings that you might be experiencing towards your best friends might not be love. You can have love for them but probably aren't in love.

Recent break ups, being on the rebound, death in the family, depression,  and stress are some examples of vulnerable times where your emotions can get all mixed up.

It's Real! You know in your heart that you're truly in love with your best friend! Can't eat, can't sleep, you're head over heels! You've made a sane mind body and spirit decision that yes, These are my emotions and no, I'm not confused sigh. Now that you've come to terms it's time to decide what to do next.

Do You Tell them? You must understand that once you tell your best friend you have strong romantic feelings for them the entire dynamic of the relationship will change. Is sharing this news worth your current friendship as it is now? Are you OK with the possible rejection? Can you continue being this persons friend with out telling them how you really feel? If you can't go another day without admitting you're feelings for your friend then you should get it off your chest. If you've decided to take the plunge and be honest then you must do it the right way. If they are in a relationship you must think twice about sharing such news. Your approach has to be strategic as well. Don't give them the "we have to talk speech" and certainly don't use the love word.While you guys are hanging out, as you usually do sit them down and tell them you have feelings for them. 

What Next? Now your best friend knows that you have romantic feelings towards them. Ideally falling in love with your best friends is the most amazing thing ever right? It could be. If they feel the same way about you then the both of you can work on being a couple. If they don't share your feelings then two things will have to happen. 

1. It never happened! You both can try to pretend the conversation never happened and go on like every things normal and you can try to forget or avoid your feelings. This solution is very unlikely so lets go to number two.
2.  Space, You'll need some space. Seeing your best friend or listening to their guy/girl drama will be horrible for you and the friendship might feel weird for them as well. You two need to try to give each other tons of space until the air clears. You need time to try to get over your feelings and seeing them all the time won't help in the least bit.
3. Possible Solutions,  Go on a few dates and meet some new friends. It's a sad reality but things might not ever be the same between the two of you.

In conclusion, professing your love to your best friend can either go amazingly right or terribly wrong. It's up to you if you're willing to take that risk. Just remember going through life with what ifs isn't quite living. So hold your nose and take a dive! GOOD LUCK!

xoxo Rockie

The Dating Divas

The Dating Divas is a blog I love! Its ran by a group of women and they all give tons of cool dating advice.

Here is their mission statement:

We are wives, mothers, sisters, and friends who strive to enrich marriages everywhere. We want to celebrate the gift of marriage while inspiring others to do the same. It is our goal to provide creative, inexpensive, and innovative dating ideas that will bring joy, fun, and excitement back into the relationship. We encourage all married men and women to take a conscious and proactive approach to investing in their spouse. By putting our spouses first, we are taken back to the simple magic of being head over heels in love again. We desire to help make lasting marriages, which in return will create everlasting families.

Readers can get a sense that these women really care about the content on their blog and it's evident that they're really trying to help other couples! You can ask them questions and offer ideas for blog post. You can even submit stories about your relationship and have it posted.

Raquel says:

April 23, 2013 at 5:43 AM

Great post! I love the cards idea, its a perfect conversation starter! I was wondering why you would feel uncomfortable speaking to your husband about anything? He’s your other half! Anyway, I love your site! thanks for the tip.

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• Tara says:

  April 23, 2013 at 5:13 PM

  Hey Raquel! Sometimes with the business of life, we get caught up in our OWN lives & forget to focus on our relationship & just having a simple conversation. A little kick-start like this may be just the key! MWAH!

  
  

  Tara is a member of the dating divas and above is her response to my comment!

I recently commented on a blog post I really liked called Conversation starters. It was about a card game you can play with your husband or wife which I thought was a fabulous idea. I got a response to my comment a couple days later. I originally thought my comment had been deleted but it was just in review! The dating Divas put a lot of energy and love in to this blog there is no denying that! check them out for yourself!

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     Enjoy guys

     xoxo Rockie

     
     

     
     

Breaking Up the Right Way!

We can all agree that breaking up with your significant other is one of the hardest things to do. How do you tell someone you've spent so much time with and given so much love to you don't want them anymore? Lets start off with things you don't say and do when trying to break up.
       

1. Email
2. Social Media
3. Text message

After being with someone for an extened period of time, the respectful way to tell them it's over, is face to face! Letting your significant other know you two are breaking up through social media, text message, email, is heartless! Today everything is done online but a break up shouldn't be one of them especially if this is a person you once cared for.

Try to avoid the IT'S NOT YOU IT'S ME line! It's so cliche! What you want to do is think of the top five reasons why you want to end things. Meet in a neutral place that's not too public; one or both of you might shed a tear or two and you don't want onlookers invading such and intimate moment. Be kind and remember they will want an explanation so give it to them. You don't ever want to leave someone clueless as to why you're breaking up with them because then they're left with no sense of closure. I know how hard It can be to say the words once you're face to face but if it's what you really want you have to be strong. Once you've broken up with your significant other you should CEASE AND DESIST all communication with them. I'm not saying you can't ever be friends with them, but right after a break up you both need space from each other to avoid confusion. Once you're so used to someone it's hard to stop talking and seeing them cold turkey, but you can do it.

Breaking up with someone over the phone is acceptable, especially if your in a long distance relationship. I don't typically recommend the phone break up but if there is no other way then go for it.

Goodluck folks

xoxo Rockie

The BIG MOVE

Moving in together? Deciding to move in with your significant other, especially before marriage is a HUGE step. It can either make or break a relationship. One doesn't know every single little thing about a person until they live with them. I found some really cool tips on the Cosmopolitan website that might be helpful!

Here they are! *Cohabitation Examination: 7 Sticky Moving-In-Together Issues, Solved
Follow the link to each tip!

1.The Problem: Feeling Claustrophobic

2. The Problem: “What’s Next?"

3. The Problem: "What About My Life?"

4. The Problem: New Roommate Syndrome

5. The Problem: Differing Taste in Decor

6. The Problem: The Furniture Fight

7. The Problem: Balancing Budgets

Hope these tips were helpful!

Happy cohabiting folks

xoxo Rockie

Editing Wikipedia Part 2

A couple of  blogs post ago I discussed how easy it was to go to web pages like Wikipedia and add your own edits to the content already on the page. I decided to go on wikipedia and test it out for myself. I made an edit to the Field Of Study section in the definition of Interpersonal Relationships. Even though editing the content of wikipedia is possible, the changes you've made can be deleted if the information is false or not to the liking of the managers of that website. I decided to go back and check to see if my edit was still there and it was!

Field of study

The study of interpersonal relationships involves several branches of the social sciences, including such disciplines as sociology, psychology, anthropology, and social work.Interpersonal skills are extremely vital when trying to develop a relationship with another person. The scientific study of relationships evolved during the 1990s and came to be referred to as 'relationship science',^[2] which distinguishes itself from anecdotal evidence or pseudo-experts by basing conclusions on data and objective analysis. Interpersonal ties are also a subject in mathematical sociology.

Wikipedia: Interpersonal Relationships

In my edit to the page I added the sentence that says, " Interpersonal skills are extremely vital when trying to develop a relationship with another person." That goes to show that anyone can add or subtract anything they want! 

Happy editing folks and remember when researching don't rely on just one source like a wikipedia because everything you may read might not be 100 percent true!

xoxo Rockie

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To Sext Or Not To Sext? That Is The Question.

The days when a person would write a love letter sprayed with their perfume and sealed with a lipstick kiss are long gone. Today's technological generation prefers risky pictures; all the goods right upfront! But, are X-rated photos the way to  go? Are there safe ways to send a nude shot without fear of someone other than the person you sent it to seeing it?

WARNING: You do realize that a picture is in most cases FOREVER. So... should you choose to send someone a risky picture they might just keep that forever.

Here's tip number one: DON'T TEXT, EMAIL or MAIL NAKED PICTURES,

BUT if you must, be smart about it!

•  If you have the slightest doubt about the person you're sending an x-rated photo to, then you shouldn't be sending them anything in the first place.
• There are certain apps for smart phones where you can send a person a picture but they only have access to it for 5 seconds then it erases. One popular app is called "SnapChat. But even that isn't 100 percent secure. 

Some more tips:

Why send a full on nude picture? keep it mysterious, classy and leave something to the imagination folks. You can send sexy pictures to your significant other without bearing it all. Send some nice legs shots, a shoulder; are you following? you can make someones blood boil without putting all the goodies on the counter, get my drift?

So, to answer the question whether one should sext or not here it is;

If you're going to sext aim for someone who's trustworthy. Sending these kind of x-rated photos should (ideally) go to a wife or a husband. If you think about it, do you really want  a boyfriend/girlfriend you've broken up with to have such compromising pictures? And what if it was a nasty break up? They can do what ever they want with those pictures.

So if you do sext be smart about it!

Happy snapping guys

xoxo Rockie

Gay Marriage?

America the beautiful, America the land of the free?

We've come a long way from the days of slavery to today where equality is heavily promoted, supported and practiced. So why is this issue of gay marriage still controversial? There was a time where interracial marriage was illegal and unheard of. But today in 2013 it's as common as losing your socks in the dryer on wash day. (I don't know about you but every time I do laundry I lose a sock.)  If your'e in love with a person who's of sound mind (and of age) then why should you not be able to get married? Let the LGBT community say "I DO".

Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton Supports the LGBT community, here's a video of her addressing the subject. In one part of the video she says, "The LGBT community are full and equal citizens and deserve the rights of citizenship, which include marriage." Makes sense, don't you think?

America is suppose to be a land of equal rights! Your thoughts and comments are more then welcomed! Lets hear what you think. Should gay marriage be legalized?

xoxo Rockie