How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Does abcense make the heart grow founder? Or is it out of sight out of mind?
Long distance relationships are one of the most difficult relationships a person can be in, but they are not impossible. It takes a lot of work and effort to keep a long distance relationship alive and well! Here are some steps you can take to survive a long distance relationship.

1. Make sure this is a relationship worth the effort it takes to be in a long distance relationship.          if you don't see a future with this person then why go through the troubles of being in a long distance relationship? Lets no try to make a boat with no fuel float for as long as it can, that's just  pointless. If it's a strong and stable relationship then put 100 percent into it!
2. Come up with a time frame, long distance relationships can't last forever. You both must come up with a game plan. Often relationships become long distance because of school, work etc. What ever the reason is, it's always easier to know OK in X amount of time we will be together again.
3. communication, this is VITAL in a long distance relationship; the vein pumping the blood to your heart. Phone calls, texting, emails and reaching out via social media is extremely important. 
4. visual communication, video chatting via skype, tango or facetime has to be a must in a long distance relationship. Humans are very visual creatures and seeing your loved ones face will help during this period of long distance. Set up video dates that you both can't break, before bed or while eating dinner, or even both. In additional the exchange of racy pictures can be fun and exciting. Since you can't physically be there with your guy/gal keeping things fun, exciting and light is important.
5. Just because gifts, thoughtfulness is always appreciated long distance or not. Sending flowers to her OR him is a great way to make someones day. Writing letters and sending unexpected packages is a great way to let your significant other know your on my mind!
6. Frequent visits, being with your significant other in physical form is more then just important its the only way to really keep the relationship alive. Yes you want to see the one you love every day or every weekend but in some cases that's highly unlikely. Once or twice a month is ideal, and every other month is manageable as well. 
7. Be supportive, There will be times when your significant other will go through times of stress either at school, work or just in their daily life. This is a time when there shouldn't be any arguing, and you should be very understanding. Loneliness is a frequent emotion during this time and trying your best to give support and attention to your significant other should be top on your list of daily things to do.
8. Honesty, This is a time in the relationship when lies will have you buried 6 feet under. In this time of separation people can become extremely paranoid and often times insecure in their boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband position. If you're going to go out with friends you should say so. It's easy to omit information about what your doing and who your doing it with.

Long distance relationships can be tough but in the end it will make your bond that much stronger. Remember to be strong have faith and most importantly have love and respect for each other!

Good Luck!

xoxo Rockie

How To Lose A Girl in 10 days

So I was watching the movie, How to use a guy in 10 days and got to thinking. Now in the first ten days of meeting someone you can usually tell whether you want to possibly pursue something with them or not. Some people can detect this way sooner then ten days. So in this movie the main character tries to do everything that women do WRONG while dating a man for ten days. I started asking my friends what is it that a man can do to make a woman lose interest in a man and came up with a list of a few things.

1. excessive calling and texting
2. poor conversation
3. eagerness for intimacy
4. lack of proper etiquette 
5. talking about an ex
6. boasting about yourself

Communication is very important in the getting to know someone stage in a relationship, but excessive calling and texting will make a woman think you're a creep, stalker and weirdo.

Great conversation is key! Sitting on the phone saying um and OK over and over again because you can't think of anything interesting to say will have a girl thinking OK NEXT!

Eagerness for intimacy- Men who constantly bring up sex in the first few dates is a major turn-off and inappropriate. It'll make a girl think that that's the only thing on your agenda.

Lack of proper etiquette- PUT THE PHONE AWAY! while on a date you should not have your phone out at all, this is extremely rude. Also when out on a nice dinner please tip the waiter and waitress accordingly. I once had a friend who went on a date and the guy tipped the waiter TWO DOLLARS. Of course she never saw him again nor did she return any of his calls after that.

Talking about an ex- Please do not talk about an ex-girlfriend especially if not asked. If you were asked please keep it brief. No one really likes to hear about exes and it'll make a girl feel like you're not over them.

Boasting about yourself-  No one likes a bragger! Yuck! Talking about yourself and the things you have is a major turn off.

Please leave a comment if you would like to add to the list of things guys shouldn't do. 

xoxo Rockie