Monogamy,
monogamy wherefore art thou? Remember when you were a kid and you liked a
girl/boy in school? You'd send them a note that said: Be
mine? Yes, no, maybe, circle one. A relationship is the YES and
casual dating is the Maybe. Today, there are countless forms of relationships. Casual dating has become the
norm in today’s society simply because we all think we have too many options to
just go for one. Or maybe our lives are to demanding to devote time to a
committed relationship.
A casual sexual relationship, or
casual dating, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who
may have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without
necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal
romantic relationship.
A
casual relationship may be part-time, or for a limited time. It may or may not
entail partner-exclusivity. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the
lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a
sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties
wish it to.
I’m
to busy: The
busy card, which is school, work, and life! Some have children, multiple jobs
and or are fulltime students and have little time to devote to a committed
relationship, which is a job all in its own. A relationship is like a plant it
needs watering in order to grow, neglect will cause that plant to die. This is
why many choose to take the easy route and decide to casually date.
A
sticky situation:
And I don’t mean the good kind! AaaahhhRight. The nice part of a casual a
relationship is that in most cases its 20 steps up form a booty call. Nice
dates can be involved, gifts, good morning text etc. You know, that whole
shabang! Buuut (there’s always a but) please don’t be confused. Your cuddle
buddy might have another cuddle buddy or several. Some get in too deep into
this casual thing. If exclusivity was never discussed or even brought up then 8
times out of 10 you’re not the only one bedding your guy/gal. If you decided
not to date anyone else that’s your personal decision and don’t expect the
other party involved to return the favor. Unless you’re a robot you may develop
some genuine feelings while in this type of relationship. Should this happen
you can do two things. A.) Express your feelings or B.) Run for the hills for
fear of rejection. Running for the hills sounds about right! No, seriously if
you feel comfortable enough to discuss your feelings with that person then I’d
say do just that. If you don’t, then there’s your answer right there!
Casual
relationships only work if both parties are on the same page.
You
have to have the same needs and wants and have similar life’s styles.
A
casual relationship can stay that way or in some cases turn serious and
eventually lead to a real commitment, yay. Just don't bank on that. If you find
your self questioning your feelings or their feelings and feel as though
you need clarity and certainty and the other party doesn’t wish to provide this
then a casual relationship is not for you. Get out before your feelings get
hurt.
Happy
dating!
xoxo
Rockie
