Good Guys Finish First!

There's a popular saying that goes like this, good guys finish last. I don't agree with this statement at all! Yes, some women go for the bad boy, mysterious type but at the end of the day they usually marry the good guy! I asked some of my close female friends what they thought were important qualities when seeking a man and came up with a list. 

1. Loving
2. Honest
3. Single
4. Hard working
5. Employed
6. Dedicated
7. Understanding
8. Affectionate
9. Kind
10. Open Minded
11. Funny
12. Out going
13. Cares about his family

Now, if you asked me I'd say that these are all qualities a good guy possesses. Right? So what's happening? I think all of these good guys that are out here might not have enough courage to bump the bad boys out of the way and swoop their lady off of her feet. From my understanding and experience those bad boy types are aggressive and persistent with their approach. Ladies don't walk pass the nice guy and right into the arms of the jerk. Dear, good guys Don't fret patience, persistence will get you the girl in the end.

I Love the good guys

xoxo Rockie

This Single Girls Life.

After being in a few long term relationships, I'm single for the first time in about ten years! Tired of always being someones girlfriend I decided I wanted to be a lone ranger. Unbelievable right? NO! Many find it hard to believe that I actually want to be single and in no rush to meet prince charming. I'm not opposed to it, just not actively looking. I'm only sharing this story because I want people to know that being single is OK and you shouldn't feel lonely or merisble because you don't have a significant other. If I had a penny for every time someone said I should be married or asked why am I single I'd be rich by now. I'm 25, which is typically in this day and age the time people start getting married, having children or in a committed relationship. (usually) One line I hear all the time is, you're too pretty, how are you single? Well, I didn't know that "pretty" people weren't allowed to be single? Is there something I'm missing? I've noticed that men who are single are rarely or never asked why? I'm assuming that it's illegal to be single when you're a young attractive woman. This is how society makes it out to be. But, I've never been the type to conform to society's expectations of how people should be. I go to the movies alone, I eat dinner alone and if I get an urge to cuddle, well that's what my body pillow is for. I surround myself with tons of wonderful friends and family members so I've yet to feel even an ounce of loneliness. My close friends tease me because when I get asked out I always tell the guy (if I agree to go) that this is not a date, it's a friend outing. Everyone always thinks this is hilarious but really, I say this because I don't want to lead anyone on. So I go on these friends outings under certain conditions.

Here are my friend outing conditions:

1.) There will be no kissing

2.) We are just friends

3.) We will remain Platonic

Now, I'm not trying to start some kind of singles revolution just saying I see so many women and men looking for love in all the wrong places. Sometimes it's OK to have time for yourself, learn to love yourself because at the end of the day if you don't love you then who else will? We have to learn to be one with our selves know our likes and dislikes and then the perfect person will be just around the corner. Please don't rush into a relationship for the fear of people alone. This is the time in my life where I'm doing everything I want to do and it's amazing. This is probably the only time in my young life that I will be able to do this. In a couple years I might be married with children but for now its just single me. For all my single folks out there, there are tons of fun things you can do with friends or even by yourself. Being single doesn't mean staying home alone and lonely. This is a time where you should be out and about meeting new people doing new things and stepping out of the box. Try not to stick to things you usually do and look for new and exciting adventures. Do things you can look back too and smile about. They don't shoot single people (well at least I don't think so). Wear your single cape proudly and when you're ready, really ready then put your self back on the market. I strongly feel that having me time is important, so have it!

I just wanna read books about juicing, watch movies and have drinks in the city with friends!

Your favorite single blogger,

xoxo Rockie

Gay Marriage?

America the beautiful, America the land of the free?

We've come a long way from the days of slavery to today where equality is heavily promoted, supported and practiced. So why is this issue of gay marriage still controversial? There was a time where interracial marriage was illegal and unheard of. But today in 2013 it's as common as losing your socks in the dryer on wash day. (I don't know about you but every time I do laundry I lose a sock.)  If your'e in love with a person who's of sound mind (and of age) then why should you not be able to get married? Let the LGBT community say "I DO".

Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton Supports the LGBT community, here's a video of her addressing the subject. In one part of the video she says, "The LGBT community are full and equal citizens and deserve the rights of citizenship, which include marriage." Makes sense, don't you think?

America is suppose to be a land of equal rights! Your thoughts and comments are more then welcomed! Lets hear what you think. Should gay marriage be legalized?

xoxo Rockie

Marrying Another Religion?

Love hath no boundaries!
Unless hes a Jew and you're a Christian, or she's a Muslim and you're a Buddhist... Well you get my drift?

Religion is usually a hot topic when brought up in any conversation, so imagine in the dating game. Usually one goes for someone who mirrors their religious beliefs. But what happens when you unexpectedly fall for someone who has a completely different belief system than you?! All though challenging, it is 100 percent possible. Both parties must be willing to come to a mutual understanding and first know that they will face many obstacles. Obstacles like who's doing the converting, and most importantly a couples' family members. Often times parents envision a certain mate for their child especially in religious and traditional communities and if they stray away from that path their family pictured for them it may cause a rift in the relationship. Having in-laws that aren't to fond of you can cause problems in most relationships. Before deciding to take the plunge and get serious with a significant other who has a different religious background both parties must have the "sit down". Sit down and have a serious conversation about where the relationship is going, and if its worth continuing. If you decide that you two are soul mates and can't eat, can't sleep without the other then go for it. Just make sure you guys are in it together because it may not be easy!
But have no fear that four letter word is here, (Love!) I'm a strong believer in the saying "Love conquers all." And once you find your mate nothing else matters. Believe in each other, be there for each other and everything will be ok!


xoxo
Rockie.

What is a relationship?!

When you think about a relationship , you think about a bond formed between two people, you think about two people making a commitment to be monogamous. A commitment to one another, a commitment to strive, together. Often people tend to get confused as to what the ultimate goal of this bond is supposed to be. People tend to get caught up in the "game". When a relationship is formed the "game" initiates, slowly growing fond of one another but uncertain of where it may lead. The ultimate goal of a relationship is what ? A marriage ? A family? A life partner? YES! Exactly! So in life when all the games stop in this game we play that is this "dating relationship" we "win" our mate? Yes? No? Hopefully.