Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go.

Sometimes In life and in love we face many difficult decisions. One being letting go... But why let someone you care about go? Well there are many reasons. As difficult as it may be to say good bye sometimes it must be done. Here are a few reasons for letting someone go...

1) Found better and want better for yourself. 

3) You want to experiment and you want to see what life has to offer (that person could have been an  hindrance on your  personal growth). 

4.) Ultimately Serves a greater purpose.

5.) The relationship seems to have no future.

6.) There is no trust in the relationship.

Sometimes we confuse being in love with being comfortable. If a person makes you feel the need to question why you are still with them, then it's time to let go. Or sometimes certain circumstances such as different religious beliefs, distance etc can be a reason as well. It also could be that the person you're with just isn't the right fit. Or maybe you've been with them for so long they're the only thing you know when it comes to love and your just using them as a crutch. Get rid of this safety net! If you have any recurring doubt about the person you're with then those are signs that maybe you should let go. Sometimes we need space to figure out what we want out of love. Should you let go and realize that he/she really is the one then there shouldn't be any issues going back to them.

Goodbyes are never easy.

xoxo Rockie

Breaking Up the Right Way!

We can all agree that breaking up with your significant other is one of the hardest things to do. How do you tell someone you've spent so much time with and given so much love to you don't want them anymore? Lets start off with things you don't say and do when trying to break up.
       

1. Email
2. Social Media
3. Text message

After being with someone for an extened period of time, the respectful way to tell them it's over, is face to face! Letting your significant other know you two are breaking up through social media, text message, email, is heartless! Today everything is done online but a break up shouldn't be one of them especially if this is a person you once cared for.

Try to avoid the IT'S NOT YOU IT'S ME line! It's so cliche! What you want to do is think of the top five reasons why you want to end things. Meet in a neutral place that's not too public; one or both of you might shed a tear or two and you don't want onlookers invading such and intimate moment. Be kind and remember they will want an explanation so give it to them. You don't ever want to leave someone clueless as to why you're breaking up with them because then they're left with no sense of closure. I know how hard It can be to say the words once you're face to face but if it's what you really want you have to be strong. Once you've broken up with your significant other you should CEASE AND DESIST all communication with them. I'm not saying you can't ever be friends with them, but right after a break up you both need space from each other to avoid confusion. Once you're so used to someone it's hard to stop talking and seeing them cold turkey, but you can do it.

Breaking up with someone over the phone is acceptable, especially if your in a long distance relationship. I don't typically recommend the phone break up but if there is no other way then go for it.

Goodluck folks

xoxo Rockie

How To Lose A Girl in 10 days

So I was watching the movie, How to use a guy in 10 days and got to thinking. Now in the first ten days of meeting someone you can usually tell whether you want to possibly pursue something with them or not. Some people can detect this way sooner then ten days. So in this movie the main character tries to do everything that women do WRONG while dating a man for ten days. I started asking my friends what is it that a man can do to make a woman lose interest in a man and came up with a list of a few things.

1. excessive calling and texting
2. poor conversation
3. eagerness for intimacy
4. lack of proper etiquette 
5. talking about an ex
6. boasting about yourself

Communication is very important in the getting to know someone stage in a relationship, but excessive calling and texting will make a woman think you're a creep, stalker and weirdo.

Great conversation is key! Sitting on the phone saying um and OK over and over again because you can't think of anything interesting to say will have a girl thinking OK NEXT!

Eagerness for intimacy- Men who constantly bring up sex in the first few dates is a major turn-off and inappropriate. It'll make a girl think that that's the only thing on your agenda.

Lack of proper etiquette- PUT THE PHONE AWAY! while on a date you should not have your phone out at all, this is extremely rude. Also when out on a nice dinner please tip the waiter and waitress accordingly. I once had a friend who went on a date and the guy tipped the waiter TWO DOLLARS. Of course she never saw him again nor did she return any of his calls after that.

Talking about an ex- Please do not talk about an ex-girlfriend especially if not asked. If you were asked please keep it brief. No one really likes to hear about exes and it'll make a girl feel like you're not over them.

Boasting about yourself-  No one likes a bragger! Yuck! Talking about yourself and the things you have is a major turn off.

Please leave a comment if you would like to add to the list of things guys shouldn't do. 

xoxo Rockie