Scandal!

ABC's new hit series Scandal, is a show jam packed with enough juice to quench even the thirstiest of thirsts! Olivia Pope, one of the main characters in the show seems to be America's favorite mistress. Miss Pope's on going affair with the married president of the United States will keep your eyes glued to the screen!

 Olivia Pope has dedicated her life to protecting and defending the public images of the nation's elite and keeping those secrets under wraps. Revered and feared at the same time, Olivia, a former communications director to the President of the United States, left the White House to open her own prominent crisis management firm. She is hoping to start a new chapter in her life—both professionally and personally—but she can't seem to completely cut ties with her past. Slowly it becomes apparent that her dysfunctional staff, who specialize in fixing other people's lives, can't quite fix the ones closest at hand-their own

This show will keep you ooohing and ahhhing for an entire hour plus longing for more once the episode you're watching is over. Full of drama and thrills scandal is a MUST WATCH! Murder plots, white house secrets, lies, sex, right wing, left wing, its all sooooooo Scandalous!

xoxo Rockie

Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go.

Sometimes In life and in love we face many difficult decisions. One being letting go... But why let someone you care about go? Well there are many reasons. As difficult as it may be to say good bye sometimes it must be done. Here are a few reasons for letting someone go...

1) Found better and want better for yourself. 

3) You want to experiment and you want to see what life has to offer (that person could have been an  hindrance on your  personal growth). 

4.) Ultimately Serves a greater purpose.

5.) The relationship seems to have no future.

6.) There is no trust in the relationship.

Sometimes we confuse being in love with being comfortable. If a person makes you feel the need to question why you are still with them, then it's time to let go. Or sometimes certain circumstances such as different religious beliefs, distance etc can be a reason as well. It also could be that the person you're with just isn't the right fit. Or maybe you've been with them for so long they're the only thing you know when it comes to love and your just using them as a crutch. Get rid of this safety net! If you have any recurring doubt about the person you're with then those are signs that maybe you should let go. Sometimes we need space to figure out what we want out of love. Should you let go and realize that he/she really is the one then there shouldn't be any issues going back to them.

Goodbyes are never easy.

xoxo Rockie

How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Does abcense make the heart grow founder? Or is it out of sight out of mind?
Long distance relationships are one of the most difficult relationships a person can be in, but they are not impossible. It takes a lot of work and effort to keep a long distance relationship alive and well! Here are some steps you can take to survive a long distance relationship.

1. Make sure this is a relationship worth the effort it takes to be in a long distance relationship.          if you don't see a future with this person then why go through the troubles of being in a long distance relationship? Lets no try to make a boat with no fuel float for as long as it can, that's just  pointless. If it's a strong and stable relationship then put 100 percent into it!
2. Come up with a time frame, long distance relationships can't last forever. You both must come up with a game plan. Often relationships become long distance because of school, work etc. What ever the reason is, it's always easier to know OK in X amount of time we will be together again.
3. communication, this is VITAL in a long distance relationship; the vein pumping the blood to your heart. Phone calls, texting, emails and reaching out via social media is extremely important. 
4. visual communication, video chatting via skype, tango or facetime has to be a must in a long distance relationship. Humans are very visual creatures and seeing your loved ones face will help during this period of long distance. Set up video dates that you both can't break, before bed or while eating dinner, or even both. In additional the exchange of racy pictures can be fun and exciting. Since you can't physically be there with your guy/gal keeping things fun, exciting and light is important.
5. Just because gifts, thoughtfulness is always appreciated long distance or not. Sending flowers to her OR him is a great way to make someones day. Writing letters and sending unexpected packages is a great way to let your significant other know your on my mind!
6. Frequent visits, being with your significant other in physical form is more then just important its the only way to really keep the relationship alive. Yes you want to see the one you love every day or every weekend but in some cases that's highly unlikely. Once or twice a month is ideal, and every other month is manageable as well. 
7. Be supportive, There will be times when your significant other will go through times of stress either at school, work or just in their daily life. This is a time when there shouldn't be any arguing, and you should be very understanding. Loneliness is a frequent emotion during this time and trying your best to give support and attention to your significant other should be top on your list of daily things to do.
8. Honesty, This is a time in the relationship when lies will have you buried 6 feet under. In this time of separation people can become extremely paranoid and often times insecure in their boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband position. If you're going to go out with friends you should say so. It's easy to omit information about what your doing and who your doing it with.

Long distance relationships can be tough but in the end it will make your bond that much stronger. Remember to be strong have faith and most importantly have love and respect for each other!

Good Luck!

xoxo Rockie

I Think I'm In Love With My Best Friend!

 A best friend is a person you share everything with and in most cases spend a lot of time with. Some find it difficult to have a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex but It's 100 percent possible! But what do you do when you think you're falling in love with your best friend? Do you ignore your feelings? Should you be open and honest with them and share how you feel? Are you sure it's really love that you're feeling? I know, I know what do you do ? that awkward moment when you've fallen in love with your best friend!

Are you sure you're in love? Often when we are going through some kind of emotional or physical hardship our friends are the ones right there holding our hands through difficult times. If you're going through a trying time in your life and your friend is really helping you through, it could make you feel like you might have romantic feelings towards them. In times of need people tend to get very attached to the people closest to them (a best friend). These feelings that you might be experiencing towards your best friends might not be love. You can have love for them but probably aren't in love.

Recent break ups, being on the rebound, death in the family, depression,  and stress are some examples of vulnerable times where your emotions can get all mixed up.

It's Real! You know in your heart that you're truly in love with your best friend! Can't eat, can't sleep, you're head over heels! You've made a sane mind body and spirit decision that yes, These are my emotions and no, I'm not confused sigh. Now that you've come to terms it's time to decide what to do next.

Do You Tell them? You must understand that once you tell your best friend you have strong romantic feelings for them the entire dynamic of the relationship will change. Is sharing this news worth your current friendship as it is now? Are you OK with the possible rejection? Can you continue being this persons friend with out telling them how you really feel? If you can't go another day without admitting you're feelings for your friend then you should get it off your chest. If you've decided to take the plunge and be honest then you must do it the right way. If they are in a relationship you must think twice about sharing such news. Your approach has to be strategic as well. Don't give them the "we have to talk speech" and certainly don't use the love word.While you guys are hanging out, as you usually do sit them down and tell them you have feelings for them. 

What Next? Now your best friend knows that you have romantic feelings towards them. Ideally falling in love with your best friends is the most amazing thing ever right? It could be. If they feel the same way about you then the both of you can work on being a couple. If they don't share your feelings then two things will have to happen. 

1. It never happened! You both can try to pretend the conversation never happened and go on like every things normal and you can try to forget or avoid your feelings. This solution is very unlikely so lets go to number two.
2.  Space, You'll need some space. Seeing your best friend or listening to their guy/girl drama will be horrible for you and the friendship might feel weird for them as well. You two need to try to give each other tons of space until the air clears. You need time to try to get over your feelings and seeing them all the time won't help in the least bit.
3. Possible Solutions,  Go on a few dates and meet some new friends. It's a sad reality but things might not ever be the same between the two of you.

In conclusion, professing your love to your best friend can either go amazingly right or terribly wrong. It's up to you if you're willing to take that risk. Just remember going through life with what ifs isn't quite living. So hold your nose and take a dive! GOOD LUCK!

xoxo Rockie

The Dating Divas

The Dating Divas is a blog I love! Its ran by a group of women and they all give tons of cool dating advice.

Here is their mission statement:

We are wives, mothers, sisters, and friends who strive to enrich marriages everywhere. We want to celebrate the gift of marriage while inspiring others to do the same. It is our goal to provide creative, inexpensive, and innovative dating ideas that will bring joy, fun, and excitement back into the relationship. We encourage all married men and women to take a conscious and proactive approach to investing in their spouse. By putting our spouses first, we are taken back to the simple magic of being head over heels in love again. We desire to help make lasting marriages, which in return will create everlasting families.

Readers can get a sense that these women really care about the content on their blog and it's evident that they're really trying to help other couples! You can ask them questions and offer ideas for blog post. You can even submit stories about your relationship and have it posted.

Raquel says:

April 23, 2013 at 5:43 AM

Great post! I love the cards idea, its a perfect conversation starter! I was wondering why you would feel uncomfortable speaking to your husband about anything? He’s your other half! Anyway, I love your site! thanks for the tip.

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• Tara says:

  April 23, 2013 at 5:13 PM

  Hey Raquel! Sometimes with the business of life, we get caught up in our OWN lives & forget to focus on our relationship & just having a simple conversation. A little kick-start like this may be just the key! MWAH!

  
  

  Tara is a member of the dating divas and above is her response to my comment!

I recently commented on a blog post I really liked called Conversation starters. It was about a card game you can play with your husband or wife which I thought was a fabulous idea. I got a response to my comment a couple days later. I originally thought my comment had been deleted but it was just in review! The dating Divas put a lot of energy and love in to this blog there is no denying that! check them out for yourself!

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Breaking Up the Right Way!

We can all agree that breaking up with your significant other is one of the hardest things to do. How do you tell someone you've spent so much time with and given so much love to you don't want them anymore? Lets start off with things you don't say and do when trying to break up.
       

1. Email
2. Social Media
3. Text message

After being with someone for an extened period of time, the respectful way to tell them it's over, is face to face! Letting your significant other know you two are breaking up through social media, text message, email, is heartless! Today everything is done online but a break up shouldn't be one of them especially if this is a person you once cared for.

Try to avoid the IT'S NOT YOU IT'S ME line! It's so cliche! What you want to do is think of the top five reasons why you want to end things. Meet in a neutral place that's not too public; one or both of you might shed a tear or two and you don't want onlookers invading such and intimate moment. Be kind and remember they will want an explanation so give it to them. You don't ever want to leave someone clueless as to why you're breaking up with them because then they're left with no sense of closure. I know how hard It can be to say the words once you're face to face but if it's what you really want you have to be strong. Once you've broken up with your significant other you should CEASE AND DESIST all communication with them. I'm not saying you can't ever be friends with them, but right after a break up you both need space from each other to avoid confusion. Once you're so used to someone it's hard to stop talking and seeing them cold turkey, but you can do it.

Breaking up with someone over the phone is acceptable, especially if your in a long distance relationship. I don't typically recommend the phone break up but if there is no other way then go for it.

Goodluck folks

xoxo Rockie

The BIG MOVE

Moving in together? Deciding to move in with your significant other, especially before marriage is a HUGE step. It can either make or break a relationship. One doesn't know every single little thing about a person until they live with them. I found some really cool tips on the Cosmopolitan website that might be helpful!

Here they are! *Cohabitation Examination: 7 Sticky Moving-In-Together Issues, Solved
Follow the link to each tip!

1.The Problem: Feeling Claustrophobic

2. The Problem: “What’s Next?"

3. The Problem: "What About My Life?"

4. The Problem: New Roommate Syndrome

5. The Problem: Differing Taste in Decor

6. The Problem: The Furniture Fight

7. The Problem: Balancing Budgets

Hope these tips were helpful!

Happy cohabiting folks

xoxo Rockie